List of Social Skills
Basic social skills
The following is a list of basic social skills. Can you identify any areas where you might be able to improve?
Basic interaction skills
These are the simple skills involved in conversing and interacting with others on an everyday basis. They include:
- Making frequent eye contact
- Smiling when greeting people and talking
- Showing "confident" body language: an open, direct stance, not fidgeting or twisting.
- Basic politeness: saying please and thank-you, saying hello and good-bye, etc.
- Showing interest in others, e.g., asking how their day was, how they thought they went on an exam, etc.
These are the skills you use when talking to other people. They include:
- Taking turns when talking
- Listening and showing interest in what the other person has to say
- "Small talk": being able to chat about unimportant things
- Nodding and smiling to indicate that you are following along
- Using humour
- Knowing when to disclose personal information and when not to
Building and maintaining friendships
There are many skills involved in making and sustaining friendships. For example:
- Approach skills: being able to go up and start talking to someone who you don't know or don't know well.
- Sharing decision making, i.e., not always insisting on having one's way but negotiating about what to do, where to go, etc.
- Showing appropriate affection and appreciation.
- Maintaining contact, i.e., not expecting the other person to "do all the work" of keeping up the friendship.
- Being supportive, i.e., showing concern when your friend is having a hard time.
- Allowing distance and closeness. People need time apart as well as together.
- Thoughtfulness: "thinking ahead" about what might be a nice ting to do for your friend.
Empathy means being able to put yourself into someone else's shoes and recognising their feelings. It is not the same as sympathy or "feeling sorry for someone". Empathy is responding in an understanding and caring way to what others are feeling. Empathic skills include:
- Noticing other people's feelings.
- Expressing concern at others' distress.
- Being able to recognise what someone else might be feeling in a given situation.
- Showing sensitivity to others' feelings when communicating. For example, being tactful when making critical comments (when criticism is necessary and/or appropriate).
Dealing with conflict
Social interactions do not always run smoothly. Conflict resolution skills include:
- Assertiveness, or being able to say what you are feeling without being aggressive or getting personal.
- Negotiation skills: being able to discuss a conflict calmly and rationally and come to an agreement about a solution.
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